Sometimes life is funny. Sometimes life is confusing. Sometimes life makes you laugh while other times you cry.
It is a blessing to be able to share the events of life with friends. I'll be honest, I'm a crappy friend. It's that whole low self esteem thing. I mean, really, why would someone want to be bothered by me calling them making them feel like they have to hang out with me.
Well, I've gotten over that. For the most part any way. Small steps up a long staircase.
I've always had friends but none really that I would call when something great happened. Or when something terrible happened. Scott is, without question, my best friend. But sometimes, you just need that girl friend. It's fun to laugh with girls.
I have had friends in my adult life who I have treasured and then (out of nowhere) it becomes high school drama. Really, I don't have time for that. I don't respond to that. I will be pleasant, but feel that the bond is broken.
Over the last year or so, I've been blessed with a great group. There are three couples in our group and we've all gotten very close. Actually, we went on vacation with one couple this summer. Our weekends intertwine, our kids play, our hearts toward God and His service are the same. Actually, that is what really brought us together- our desire to serve.
The girls make me laugh. So hard I cry. They guys are like brothers. They make me laugh too. The kids are loud when they are together and I love it.
I am thankful. My key word for 2009 was COMMIT. I can honestly say that with our friends, I have made a choice to commit. I feel that I am getting better about committing to the relationships I have made. Of course, there is room for improvement.
Can I just say, though, that texting has helped me maintain friendships? I know, how bizarro is that and so high school (and I was just talking down high school drama). But, really, a lot of times I do not have time for a long phone chat, so I'll send a text to a friend to check in on their day. Works for me.
What crazy way do you keep in touch with friends? And, Brandi, if you're reading this, can I text you too? Miss you, love you, and will have dinner soon.
2 comments:
I just about cried when I saw that you mentioned me by name. The whole time I was reading your post, I was thinking "How alike are we?" I, too, am a crappy friend and that is why I've not maintained friendships very well. (You nailed me on that whole insecurity thing, too!) And that is why I've found myself in a very bad way in the last year or so, trapped inside my crappy house with my not-so-crappy (but very crabby) kids, feeling like I had no one. Pathetic, I know.
Fortunately, we've been hanging out with some couples at church and I'm starting to feel a little connected again. I'd not put a name to it, but COMMITTING is exactly what I'm trying to do... be a better friend so as to have better friends.
The cherry on top is that you want to have a mom date with me. I'm ALL over that!
And, finally, to answer your question... Twitter is how I keep up with my friends during the day... it's a smidge addicting! It'd be really cool if you came over to the dark side, too! But until then, you can text me ANYTIME!!!
I am the same way when it comes to friendships. I don't know how I've maintained my friendship with Kat so long because I'm a crappy friend, too. I also struggle with feeling like no one really wants to be my friend and people are just nice to me because it's polite. I'm glad you have committed to these friendships! Of course, that means it will be that much harder for you when you move to Mississippi. HAHAHAHA! ; )
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